Here is a brief read about an important topic: Gender Equity.
Let me begin with a question: Out of every ten American women, how many do you think have masturbated either as children or after they have grown up?
(While you are thinking about your answer, I will hum the Jeopardy theme song for background music…)
If your answer is 6, 7, or 8, then you are correct. Give yourself a pat on the back. You are unlike most Americans: Most Americans underestimate the number of American women masturbating. A recent survey revealed only 43% of Americans able to correctly answer this question.
Stereotypes about who is “supposed to be” masturbating (MEN! MEN! MEN! MEN! MEN!) are likely driving America’s underestimation of women masturbating.
Men do masturbate more than women (see Tables 1 and 2). However, this should not be the case.
“Should” is a dangerous judgmental word, but I am going to use it again — and again: Women should not be masturbating less than men are masturbating. In fact, on the contrary, from biological and psychological perspectives, women SHOULD be masturbating more than men are masturbating.
Biologically, women have the human body’s most erogenous organ, the clitoris. The clitoris has twice the number of sensory-nerve endings as the penis. And more than 90% of women can achieve orgasm by clitoral stimulation alone.
Psychologically, women are as likely as men to be having sex not for love, babies, or intimacy, but for pleasure (see Table 3).
So, why are women NOT masturbating as often, if not MORE often than men are masturbating?
Sociology answers this question for us. Although some women are masturbating, and most who are, are doing so only infrequently, society-in-general expects women not to be masturbating — at all. Oppressive societal actions, like shaming, labeling, and judging, that occur specifically for women who are explicit, open, and HONEST about enjoying sex and sexuality for their own sake, have unnaturally decreased the percentage and frequency of women masturbating.
This is especially disconcerting since masturbation is not only associated with women’s pleasure, but also with higher levels of self-esteem, self-identity, and longer-and-more satisfying relationships.
Despite all the long and hard-fought battles in the war for gender equity in America, this war has yet to be won. Maybe, this war will only be won when it includes the battle for masturbation equity.
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Dr. Don Lucas, Ph.D. is a Professor of Psychology and head of the Psychology Department at Northwest Vista College in San Antonio Texas. He loves psychology, teaching, and research.
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