One of these days, I will finish writing a book titled, “The Top Ten Myths about Human Sexuality.” But every time I begin writing this book, I find it impossible to fit all 100+ human sexuality myths people need to have debunked for their health, happiness, and safety, into a single top ten list. I guess I need to write a book titled, “The Top 100+ Myths about Human Sexuality.” In any case, this paper is about one of these top ten, 100+ myths: Menopause causes women to lose their desire to have sex.

Sex is Not About Pregnancy

People…

Here is a brief read about an important topic: Gender Equity.

Let me begin with a question: Out of every ten American women, how many do you think have masturbated either as children or after they have grown up?

(While you are thinking about your answer, I will hum the Jeopardy theme song for background music…)

If your answer is 6, 7, or 8, then you are correct. Give yourself a pat on the back. You are unlike most Americans: Most Americans underestimate the number of American women masturbating. …

Male sexual anatomy is mostly presented only in terms of reproduction, even though reproduction is only a fraction of what drives male sexuality. True discussions of male sexual anatomy must include the concept of pleasure, the greatest part of what drives male sexuality. A simple thought-experiment demonstrates just how great this pleasure is: Ask any adult male to calculate the number of times he has had (and will have) sex over his lifetime, then ask him to divide this number into two categories: (1) The number of times he had (and will have) sex for reproductive purposes and (2) The…

Female sexual anatomy is mostly presented only in terms of pregnancy and reproduction, even though pregnancy and reproduction are only fractions of what drives female sexuality. True discussions of female sexual anatomy must include the concept of pleasure, the greatest part of what drives female sexuality. A simple thought-experiment demonstrates just how great this pleasure is: Ask any adult female to calculate the number of times she has had (and will have) sex over her lifetime, then ask her to divide this number into two categories: (1) The number of times she had (and will have) sex for reproductive purposes…

Although our definitions of sexuality are different from when we are children, adolescents, and adults, we are none-the-less sexual creatures throughout our lifespans. And throughout our lifespans, our health, happiness, and safety are dependent on us understanding sexuality. Understanding sexuality, as understanding anything else that matters, begins with learning words.

This paper is about the first ten sexual words children must learn for their health, happiness, and safety.

Defining Sexuality

Sexuality can be defined as a form of communication, driven by intimacy, to achieve biological, psychological, and sociological fulfillment.

Intimacy and fulfillment are mostly based on a person’s age, whereas…

Humans are a weird bunch. Not knowing the definition of something, rarely stops us from debating, judging, or even doing this “something.”

Take for example, orgasms: We debate their origins and judge others for having them while trying ourselves, to have as many as possible, but few of us can define what they are.

This paper, about what exactly an orgasm is…

SHOULD. NOT. BE. NECESSARY!

By adulthood, we all SHOULD know what orgasms are.

We SHOULD know what brings us pleasure.

Indeed, 21st century American society is pretty good with “allowing” us to explore pleasure, if pleasure is associated…

If you are interested in orgasms — and who in their right-mind is not, then you are in the right place, because this paper is about “where” orgasms occur.

Orgasms occur in the sexual response cycle. The sexual response cycle is the biological, psychological, and sociological factors surrounding and including an orgasm.

Biological factors are associated with genetics, physiology, and anatomy.

Psychological factors are associated with self, identity, feelings, behaviors, thoughts, and perceptions.

And sociological factors are associated with culture, society, groups, and ethics.

Masters and Johnson

The sexual response cycle was scientifically discovered by William Masters (b. 1915, d. 2001) and Virginia…

I want to make you think differently about sex education.

Whether you are for sex education, against it, or somewhere in-between, is not what I want to make you think differently about.

Instead, by the time you are finished reading this paper, and forever after that, whenever you are thinking about sex education, I also want you thinking about racism.

The Gold Standard

Sex education comes in many forms, comprehensive, abstinence-plus, abstinence-only, and no sex education at all. But only comprehensive sex education is based on science. Comprehensive sex education’s purpose is facilitating the development of sexually healthy people. It…